Gay Patong offers
a very exciting and interesting gay scene. We hope
that you will take your time and read this small
piece of advice before entering the gay scene. We
do think that this information is helpful understanding
what's going on here. Without some information on
hand the gay scene might appear confusing and very
odd. Everything you are used to (and think is normal)
is better forgotten while you are here. What's normal
in a western country might be very wrong here. Remember
that the Thai culture is much older than in most
western societies and has its own way of dealing
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about Phuket Island in Thailand
Patong Beach on Phuket Island in Thailand is the most popular
and well-developed beach on Phuket Island in Thailand.
Long recognized as one of the world's Top 10 diving sites,
Phuket is now Thailand's most important tourist destination,
offering a variety of beaches, attractions and exciting
If you haven't been here before you will find a blossoming
gay community only 5 minutes walk from the beach. Should
you choose to stay at one of the gay
accommodations in and around paradise complex, you
will find everything you need is just around the corner.
In addition to several gay guesthouses there are now over
20 gay bars and clubs, a disco with 2 shows nightly, restaurants,
coffee shops, hair salons, laundry services,
phone/fax and Internet services, tourist information and travel
agents. The gay community in Patong is strong and continues
to grow, with more variety than ever here in Paradise Complex.
If you are planning to visit Patong Beach during the high
season (November - April) it is strongly advised that you
make room reservations in advance as the most popular hotels
are often fully booked 3-4 months in advance.
Phuket town and other areas
Many gay men from other parts of the Island do not want to go to Patong and Paradise Complex because of the comercial scene there. If you meet a gay man on Internet you should not be surprised if this person has never been to or even want to visit Paradise Complex. Respect this matter of intigrity and meet elsewhere.
A good place to meet other gay men is the Tara Sauna in Phuket town wich is the only gay place outside Patong.
With the help of Internet its easy to meet on-line. The most popular ways to meet is by
We wish and intend to make your visit to our gay community
as happy as possible. Many guests are familiar with
gay life in Phuket, but for those new explorers, we
have some thoughts we would like to share. [These thoughts
are also valid if you are straight and are looking
for a friend of the opposite sex.]
Start to think with an open mind about the fact that
your references and experiences are most likely very
different from those of most of the Thai-men you will
meet in the gay-community here. Also most of the Thai-men
you will meet are not like you here for vacation, they
have their daily life here including good times, bad
times, joy, love, happiness, sorrow as well as to make
their living. Even if your background is very different
your feelings may not be that different! Treat anyone
with the same kind of respect you yourself would appreciate.
Please remember that the Thai-men you will meet in
the bars are working men and your satisfaction and
happiness is their income. If you talk with a man for
a while in the bar, buy him a drink, leave him a tip,
You will as everywhere find many kinds of (Thai-) men:
masculine men, feminine men, masculine boys, feminine
boys and lady-boys. And do not be surprised that some
of the Thai-men who go with a gay-tourist are straight.
Patong has bars with cabaret shows, go-go boys, bars
and restaurants, and almost all have Thai-men who would
go with a guest. If a Thai- man appeals to you, find
out through the captain or owner if he speaks English.
It is always best to be straightforward with the Thai-man
and the owner of the bar. Find out what the Thai-man
likes and does not like. Also find out if he will spend
the night, or just spend a shorter time together with
you. If you do not find out about this in advance you
may be confused and disappointed later. There is always
a fee to the bar that is not negotiable if you want
to take away a Thai-man working in that bar. There
may be some flexibility with your payment to the Thai-man.
It may involve only sex, staying the night, or perhaps
you will have company for your entire holiday. Please
remember, he has friends or family, and will need some
time for his daily life too. Payment can be at the
end of your adventure, but it is more thoughtful to
consider payment as you both go along.
You can of course meet all kinds of Thai-men here in
Patong, also gay men that you can meet under the same
conditions and circumstances as in every other country.
Different Thai-men you will meet here have as well
as all other men different intentions with seeking
contact with you. Making contact to find: love, the
pleasure of sex, money for their living or a combination
We as western-gay are normally very used to seek sexual
contacts just for the pleasure of sex or as a part
of seeking love but we are not very prepared that that
may involve money. Here that is a reality. And regardless
if you want to be a part of that or not it probably
make your stay here in the gay community easier if
you are mentally aware already when you enter.
This does not mean that you can not really enjoy and
have a fantastic time meeting new friends in the gay-community
without taking a Thai-man and pay for that. But since
you will get suggestions it would probably save yourself
and your surroundings from a lot of confusion if you
are straightforward with your intentions. Pay a drink
for the Thai-man, give him a tip and explain with a
friendly smile that you are not looking for someone
to go with if that is the case.
Remember that even if you get into a really confusing
situation here, you are always better of with a smile
here than any kind of confrontation.
We hope you will have a really nice time here and that
our thoughts will help you to make it even better.
The best beaches on Phuket Island are on the west coast.
The most developed beach is Patong followed by Karon
Please observe that public nudity is not socially
accepted and illegal in Thailand. You will not find any
nude beaches here.